Before you hurl yourself into offense for my colorful choice of acronyms, it's not what you think. Okay it is... but read anyway.
If you're a millennial, you more than likely know the meaning of DGAF. For my older , non-acronym-using readers who need a bit of clarification, it stands for:
Don't Give A F---.
Are we all caught up here? Wonderful, let's move on.
Millennials are notorious for exclaiming the phrase at any given moment.
Failed a test? DGAF
Your best friend is mad at you? DGAF
Yo boo dumped you? DGAF
Add a hashtag to it, and call it a night!
It can be used lightheartedly or literally. However the popularity of the term doesn't seem to be just a social media trend, I honestly believe it has become a sort of outlook on life.
If there's one thing us millennials are, it is passionate. We all strive to be the change we want to see in the world, and will fight tooth and nail to see it happen. Anyone or anything that stands in our way, God help 'em. Which, in theory, is pretty awesome... but what does that look like in action?
I wholeheartedly believe passion without compassion is hazardous.
Can a person reach a goal without caring about stops on the way? Absolutely.
Will it be as rewarding? Probably not.
See, the whole problem with this DGAF mentality is that we literally stop giving a f....
I for one, am without a doubt guilty of this.
From dealing with frustrating people to not knowing how to play the guitar by now; I've brushed things under the "DGAF" carpet. Even as recently as last week, I had a friend bring a situation to my attention, to which I ended the conversation emphasizing how much , " I DON'T CARE!"
Now, don't get me wrong, I don't think we should give undivided attention to every single situation in life. That would be horribly overwhelming. But maybe, we could care... or at least GAF.
There's a quote that reads, "Let go of people who no longer serve a purpose in your life." At first, being a twentysomething who was becoming her own person, I lived for this quote. I think I even pinned it!
You're going to talk trash and be two-face? See Ya.
Ignore me? Adios.
Don't measure up to some ridiculous standard? BYE FELECIA.
Now as a slightly older twentysomething, who's still becoming her own person, I'm saddened by the very same statement. Instead of dealing with things, I hardened my heart and moved on.
Any person or situation in my life, has a purpose in my life. Now, I may not be fond of said situation or person, but there is still a purpose being served. This really hits home for me, especially in the context of people. Even if someone doesn't deserve my attention, they still deserve it. (Does that even make sense?)
I once watched a Tyler Perry play, and Madea was carrying on about how there are three types of people in our "life tree". Some people are leaves (they come and go, change with the seasons), some are branches (stick around for a while, but also eventually break off), but then there are roots. These people are apart of you, inside of you, and giving you life.
All three serve a purpose; all three are apart of your "life tree", and I for one, GAF about my tree!
So, I encourage you: care about something...anything! Care about your relationships. Care about your academic or professional success. Care about the world around you. Heck, care about your favorite celebrity. Please, GIVE A F.... well you know :)
The world is starving for people like that, and since us millennials already march to the beat of our own drummer...
Let's show the world how it's done.
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
Happy New Year!
2014, wow... I feel like the world should look like Zenon: Girl of the 21st Century by now, ha.
The best thing about a new year, is a fresh new start. Granted, you can have a fresh start at anytime, but there is nothing like the beginning of a new year. Everyone is so animated with hope and determination to better themselves.
And I am no different.
As the new year approached, I wondered what I wanted my 2014 to be (because life is what YOU make it- yes I quoted Hannah Montana) , and then it hit me...
I am officially declaring 2014: YEAR OF ASIA.
We can thank Ms. Penny Hartz, (my TV spirit animal and) character of my most recent Netflix addiction, Happy Endings, for the terminology. At the beginning of season 2, Penny decided 2012 was her year, and anytime something good happened she'd exclaim, "YEAR OF PENNY!" with envy-inducing pizazz.
So, prepare yourselves for the tweets, snapchats, texts, hashtags, and down south hollerin's of YEAR OF ASIA, or #YOA. (pronounced YOW, obviously.) Heck, you might even catch yourself saying it too!
* I apologize in advance for the annoyed amusement this will cause most people. (I'm lying, I'm not sorry.)
Aside from repeating a cute catchphrase, I do have have some resolutions:
- Blog at least twice a month. I mean.. that's what a blog's for, right?
- Become more handy.
- Quality over Quantity. In every aspect of life.
- Save more. or you know, actually save money.
- Think of others more.
But, most importantly, this year, I want to develop a deeper, unwavering faith.
Let me clarify, the problem isn't having faith that God is capable of all things, it's believing that I do.
Hillsong's, "Oceans (Where Feet May Fall)", has a powerful line, "Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders." These nine words resonated with me so deeply. Not because I'm a Christian, or because they're beautiful words, but because they are true.
Giving God control, while still keeping some for yourself doesn't work. That type of behavior, in my opinion, stems from a lackluster faith, yet I still wanted.. needed control. However the desire for an unboareded faith isn't solely concerning my spiritual life, but also in people. In 2013, I think I lost a bit of faith in people, which I swore to myself I would never let happen.
Thankfully, it's a new year.
And with that, I welcome you 2014 and all the laughter, instagrams, new "favorites" , deep talks, reunions, concerts, road trips, tweets, weddings, babies, opportunities, and new adventures you may bring.
Year of Asia, let's do this!